Va-jay-jay

Holy crap it's been ages since I've posted anything! So here I am posting on what I've been digesting lately.

I don't really remember how I got down this path. I think it might have been the Huffington Post about this website about normal looking naked ladies -- a Kickstarter project by a photographer husband and wife team. They're part of a movement to make sure that women appreciate that they're beautiful, no matter what they look like.

I have to admit, this appealed to me because the pictures were so beautiful and the women not always traditionally beautiful. The nudes weren't even your typical you'd see in a girly magazine. There was no cupping of a breast with a her tongue stuck out to try to lick her nipple. (Seriously guys, we don't do this. Not on purpose by ourselves. This is just something we don't do. And I say this as somebody who could *probably* do it and achieve contact. Most women cannot.) No, the women on this website are just regular women with normal bodies. Sure, some of them could have tried to be models. But most are not. Most are curvy, lumpy, saggy, and happy. I think the happy is what is most striking. I don't know if it is how the photographer deals with them that makes them seem so confident or happy, but there is something radiant about these pictures. I almost wanted to volunteer. Almost. I think I'll have to wait until my mother, aunts and uncles die. And then maybe after my brothers died too... Oh, and maybe myself. Eh, maybe I don't have the confidence to shed the robe like these ladies did, but it really made me feel better about myself.

So anyway, that led me to another website all together. (Right now I'm wondering if I should change my settings for this particular post to be adults only. Ah well. That would be different for me. So no, I'm not going to do it.) This one is called the "Large Labia Project," by some girl in her twenties who has been embarrassed by her non-symmetrical labia sever since she was in her teens.  She thought it would be liberating to post pictures of her labia on the site and invited other people to do so as well. Amazingly, she has hundreds of submitted photos which I still won't be participating in. (Darn that Catholic school shame does run deep, don't it?) But there are so many pictures of labias that it shows just how diverse we are as women. And I was surprised to find that men also submit pictures of their girlfriends or wives. The men who stumble upon this website which only hosts pictures of women's privates and no faces, and almost in a clinical medical fashion, find it AWESOME. Like few are the men who are critical of the vagina they are presented with if they've managed to get a woman to agree to show him her vagina. Like the overwhelming feeling is gratitude over critique.

So that rabbit hole ("Heh, heh, she said hole," said my inner Beavis & Butthead )led me to my final website which hosts a documentary about vaginoplasty. Truth is, I have seen videos of labial plastic surgery before and have been horrified. But this video was produced by a woman who recently discovered that there was such a thing as vaginoplasty. Much of the film concentrates on how women kind of don't know what their labias should look like aside from porn and they're very much self conscious about what they *should* look like. I actually have never even thought of it before. I suppose I need to take some time with a hand mirror or something. (I apologize for that visual, everybody.)

Which of course has led me here. Krikey!

So now what? No worries, everybody. I'm keeping my clothes on. What has been seen cannot be unseen. And also -- we are all unique snowflakes. Nobody is exactly like anybody else. Don't tease people about their junk because their junk is perfect just the way it is.